Tuttle--I was expecting to get those windows you show in your Post #2 after installing update 912812. But so far I have not.
I have barred ActiveX controls from running in Internet Sites. If I find a site that needs ActiveX to run (like Windows Update or the macromedia.com site, itself) and I trust it, I put it into my Trusted Sites which permits ActiveX controls by default. Maybe that is why.